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How to Stop Caring What Other People Think and Focus on Your Needs




"How to stop overreacting"




Toxic People hosted by Raven




Real anxiety is not logical.

What do you say to people that try to use logic to explain away your anxiety?  




How has stigma affected you?




Talk about celebrations.




 

Talk about your experience with music.




Topic: "Animals for Support?"

 

 





Discussion topic:  “enabler”


Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.
- Maimonides

The term “enabler” generally describes someone whose behavior allows a loved one to continue self-destructive patterns of behavior.
This term can be stigmatizing since there's often negative judgment attached to it.




What can you do to help a friend if you fear that your friend is a danger to himself?

 




Subject for Saturday's Discussion:
How to Stop Worrying About Things You Can't Change or Control

Maybe we can bring up as a topic within that topic "Pain" - We all experience it.
Emotionally and/or physically.
It’s mostly uncontrollable.

What are some suggestions to keep from worrying about what’s going to bring pain into our lives on a daily basis?







How to Stop Worrying About Things You Can't Change




What are some good coping skills?

What are some coping strategies?

How to develop better coping skills?




1.    I worry all the time about whether the pain will end. (H)
2.    I feel I can't go on. (H)
3.    It's terrible and I think it's never going to get any better. (H)
4.    It's awful and I feel that it overwhelms me. (H)
5.    I feel I can't stand it anymore. (H)
6.    I become afraid that the pain may get worse. (M)
7.    I think of other painful experiences. (M)
8.    I anxiously want the pain to go away. (R)
9.    I can't seem to keep it out of my mind. (R)
10.   I keep thinking about how much it hurts. (R)
11.   I keep thinking about how badly I want the pain to stop. (R)
12.   There is nothing I can do to reduce the intensity of the pain. (H)
13.   I wonder whether something serious may happen. (M)

Note: For the listed items above, (R) Rumination, (M) Magnification, and (H) Helplessness.




1     Flickering, Pulsing, Quivering, Throbbing, Beating, Pounding
2     Jumping, Flashing, Shooting
3     Pricking, Boring, Drilling, Stabbing
4     Sharp, Cutting, Lacerating
5     Pinching, Pressing, Gnawing, Cramping, Crushing
6     Tugging, Pulling, Wrenching
7     Hot, Burning, Scalding, Searing
8     Tingling, Itchy, Smarting, Stinging
9     Dull, Sore, Hurting, Aching, Heavy
10     Tender, Taut (tight), Rasping, Splitting
11     Tiring, Exhausting
12     Sickening, Suffocating
13     Fearful, Frightful, Terrifying
14     Punishing, Grueling, Cruel, Vicious, Killing
15     Wretched, Blinding
16     Annoying, Troublesome, Miserable, Intense, Unbearable
17     Spreading, Radiating, Penetrating, Piercing
18     Tight, Numb, Squeezing, Drawing, Tearing
19     Cool, Cold, Freezing
20     Nagging, Nauseating, Agonizing, Dreadful, Torturing




All kinds of pain.

Everyone knows pain of some form.

 




Check in.

Anxiety affects everyone.

 




How are you doing?




...dysfunctional families

(parts of a recent post)

My family also make comments... makes me so uncomfortable

My family already is dysfunctional as it is. In the past from barely knowing my dad, my mums abusive boyfriends or rather the ones i have to hear... It all around makes me so uncomfortable. i hate being in my house.

I just wish i could be comfortable in my own skin and i have tried so many times saying that i am just fine the way i am but i know its not true, something is always telling me its not true. I dont know what the point of this post was but i felt like i needed to write it down, maybe others feel a similar way? Thanks.




Newly Diagnosed BP 2 and ADD

Person just diagnosed with BP 2

And 3 months ago with ADD

Feels like a double whammy.

On good BP meds, feeling more normal/balanced.

20 years on depression meds caused mania, angry and sleepless as a result

Feeling very isolated and alone, no one to talk to

Dad has BP

Looking for any support

Vitamins or supplements that help?

Books recommendations or websites?

 




I am so sorry to hear about Missy. RIP


I am glad we had so much time with Missy. I don't know anyone who stayed so active in chat with us for so long. I personally had many memorable discussions in chat with her. She loved nature and simple things.

Kris, thanks for sharing this.




Missy died last night.




What keeps you calm?!!!!!




Take easy courses online
Church service
Radio broadcasts
Reading books
Tele-health over phone
Go outside
Time with animals
Time with kids
Concern for family members
Online shopping
Dealing with health issues
Develop ulcers
Mandatory training for work
Not worry about things are beyond our control
Doing what we are doing
Getting alergic to things





NAMI Discussion Groups > Depression > Keeping Busy?

Post:
I have been busy.
What about you?


Reply:
I've got to work which is both good and bad.
A. I need money.
B. The virus is out there.





Next topic might be something like if you had $2 trillion, what would you do with it?

 

A trillion is 1,000,000,000,000, also known as 10 to the 12th power, or one million million. It's such a large number it's hard to get your head around it, so sometimes trillion just means “wow, a lot.”

 




We need to pick one.




Reduce your anxiety, you know, a lot of people have anxiety, listen to music, have fun, enjoy nature, keep a routine, play cards get a good book or listen to an audio book.




Discussion Topic:

Depression NAMI Discussion Groups > Depression > Am i the only one?

If anyone dials-in... this is what our discussion will be about.

 

Thank you




I thought talking about getting sick was a good topic.







The topic in tomorrow's discussion is about being sick in 2019. An old post by solidity, in the depression group. 




FOr the call Saturday more than one person has confirmed




According to the recent research, kissing relieves tension, prevents tooth decay, helps you lose weight, slows the aging process, increases fitness levels and boosts self-esteem.

"Kissing power is stronger than willpower"

This quote can be used to describe the way many people feel when kissing someone they love.




Cats, I'm very sorry if I hurt you. You are very dear to me and I miss you. Please text me.




1. dont read anything.

2. dont follow news.

3. Dont go to stores or malls.

4. eat at home only

5. dont listen to music.

6. dont watch tv or use a computer.

7. wear noise canceling headphones.

8. take up knitting and crafts.

9. avoid conversations.

10. pray real hard for a cure.




This message board is a good thing to use.




It is a challenge to find someone in chat at the same time I log in. I think we need a way for better coordination - any suggestions?




Let missy know there will be a namily waiting for her.


Hi everyone,

I tried to find you Cats, but you were lost? Missy has terminal cancer. I am sorry to relay this in a message this way, but I thought you would like to know. She is still with us, and is in hospice. She is still able to chat, if you want to call her. I miss you all and hope you are better than this message.




Everyday at sunrise the sun comes up - that is something we can count on. The future is bright, enjoy your day!


The "full screen" option may display better in your computer


We lost if for a while but it's back.

Thank you for your understanding.




Chat is so simple it does not have time stamp. The login screen does displays the more recent time chat was visited.




Welcome and have fun




I need to do something about making it easier to get people chatting




The blanket is laid out in the meadow with a basket of fine treats.


Hugging has some surprising powers. It sets the tone for any discussion that needs to take place. Hugging builds trust and a sense of safety.


This is a new message page until I figure out a chat program to replace the other one. Click on the header and you can write a note and save it.